20th April, 2017
I can finally announce that our first child was born on the 7th of April. It took me two weeks to write this post but as you can imagine recovering from birth and adapting to a new born ain't as easy as I thought it would be. Words can't describe how happy I am along with my fiancé and how beautiful and special the day of our daughter's birth was.
He predicted the date and time..
She came on Friday the 7th of April at 9pm. The craziest thing about this is that Callum predicted the exact date and time that she will be born on. How mad is that!? I remember around 10 minutes to nine, Callum looked at the clock and said 'Ah no, she won't be born at 9pm I guess'.. That's when the constructions went on a mad one and 10 minutes later she was finally with us. Believe it or not Callum recorded the whole labour, including pushing her out and cutting the cord. I couldn't watch it in the first week as I was way to sore to even imagine what my down below looked like at the time lol. A week later we both sat down and watched the whole video, sweating it out!! A beautiful memory for us to look back on in the future.
The pain before the labour..
My contractions started 2 days before, they would come every 30-10 minutes in the first day and were pretty painful, I didn't think they would get much worse. The next day was really bad, constructions came every 5-6 minutes and lasted up to a minute. The pain kept getting stronger and stronger with each construction. I spent both these days walking as I couldn't stay still. On the 6th of April around 11pm I've freaked out as I've lost 'something that appeared to be my mucus plug' and I've rushed to the hospital with my fiancé and dad. I was in so much pain, tired and really fed up. I was then examined by two midwives, and told that I am only 2cm dilated, that I am still in early labour and once the right time comes I will not be able to cope with the pain - that's when you know it started. 'What the f#ck... Are you kidding me? More pain? Stronger constructions? I already can't cope with the pains..' I couldn't believe my ears lol but hey it's all good. I knew my bubba was coming soon so nothing else really mattered.
I did it without any pain relief !!
On the next day the pains were worse, words can not describe, me and my partner spent all day walking up and down the road. I puked up few times, had a terrible headache, couldn't really eat or drink much but I still did to ensure I'm strong enough to push her out. Around 2pm I've notice quiet a bit of blood in my underwear now that's when I proper freaked out! I also couldn't feel my baby move, I've panicked and started crying. Callum rang the hospital they advised me to come in. We got in a taxi and rushed to the hospital. The poor taxi driver was terrified that I will deliver in his car lol. He kept looking at me in the mirror with a paranoid look on his face. As we arrived to the hospital, the midwives monitored my baby's heart beat. Everything appeared normal and they were ready to send me home as 'I was still in an early labour' they said... I've demanded to be examined before going home to find out that I am 6cm dilated, not only that, my waters broke as I was getting examined!! We've rushed to the birth unit where my pool was set up for my dreamed water birth. The constructions were so strong and frequent by then that I have asked for gas and air. Unfortunately I quickly refused to use it any longer as it made me feel slow and drowsy, similar to the tipsy feeling and I didn't want to feel that way on this so special day. I carried on without any pain relief like a soldier.. ;-)
He was amazing..
I have to highlight how proud I am of Callum who has been so supportive throughout the whole process. He was rubbing my back, soothing and tickling my body, putting cold towels on my head, telling me when to push and how to push, he was basically my midwife. I don't think I could do it without him by my side, he supported me all the way and made Christianna's birth day even more special. I'm truly blessed to have him in my life.
Was it painful ??
I was in the pool for less than an hour, the midwife advised me that I will not be examined again until 4 hours later as the average dilation per hour is half a centimetre. 10 minutes after she said that I have felt the urge to push. The midwife looked at me shocked and asked if I feel like I need to push, I replied yes and I've started crying.. Don't ask me why lol. I guess I've panicked. She then examined me again and all cervix was gone! Yes it is happening! 10cm dilation, she's coming!! Callum was so happy and excited the only problem was I did not know how to push lol.. It took me 2 hours to figure out how to fricking push, I was then asked to move on to the bed as I was getting really tired and Christianna's heartbeat rate was slowing down. That is when I freaked out and started pushing properly!! She came within 10 minutes. The pain was bad, I mean real bad.. Not only the constructions but the stinging sensation when her head and arms popped out. Oh lord. Best thing about it is that you forget all about the pain the second they place your bundle of joy on your chest. I was shaking, I couldn't believe it. She was finally laying in my arms. She looked so perfectly beautiful! I was holding her so close, kissing her cute little head and fingers. She smelt so good too! I would of never thought how cute new borns smell once they pop out. She pissed and pooped on me.. Callum cut the cord and stayed with me that night in a very uncomfortable chair by my hospital bed, my poor baby. Christianna was in a little crib right next to us. Both our parents came to visit us, I rang my mum and dad as soon as she was born to let them listen to her very first cry. It sounded so beautiful, I was touched. To finally see, smell, hold and hear our little bubba! My mum of course started crying. The next day we was discharged around 12pm. All the midwives were stunned at how beautiful she was. She is now 13 days and she owns half of our king size bed...
It's not what I've expected..
I had absolutely no clue at how little new borns sleep and how much they eat lol. Our little bubba is up every 2-3 hours to feed for 30-40mins. I've decided to breast feed and I have been loving every second of it even though she does get pretty stressy when she can't find the nipple.. The first week was very bad she kept waking up for feeds every single hour, I was getting really tired with the lack of sleep and really craved a proper nap. The following/current week she has improved a lot. Her naps extended to 3 hours and she feeds shorter period of time, thanks to my nipple shields that helped her latch on and feed easier. She refuses to sleep in her crib and wakes up the minute I put her down. I've tried everything that the internet, midwives and other mothers has possibly recommended to get her used to her crib - without any luck. She has been sleeping in bed with us, which I secretly love without a doubt. Waking up every morning to the love of my life, Callum was amazing, but waking up to him and our daughter is irreplaceable, she completed our life and family.
Do you have any children, or are you an expectant mother?
How was your labour? I'd love to hear your stories!